So I like to call myself a leader. Leading my coaching clients. Leading my groups. And perhaps the most difficult–leading my kids. Now whether I’m a good leader or a not so good leader is debatable. And clearly I will not have that kind of debate with my children because I’d probably lose.
Case in point:
I was driving my kids to school a few days ago, cranking up the volume, trying to drown out the sound of my bickering children in the backseat. Can you believe my daughter had the audacity to touch her brother, much to his chagrin?
“Stop touching me!”
“You eat stink bombs.”
“But you do!”
Unable to drown out the music, the screaming, and name-calling, I pulled the car over and threatened them with their lives. And no, I was not calm. I’m sure I had eyes of fire and the contorted face of a madman.
Was I proud of my behavior? Well, it stopped the screaming, all right, albeit temporarily. But was it worth the damage? Could I not have simply stated, “We will sit in this parking lot until you’re done fighting. And if you’re late for school, too bad.”
But I let my temper and frustration get the best of me.
What about you? In your leadership areas, do you sometimes fall off the wagon, letting your nasty rage rip through the hearts of your people? Maybe it’s not so bad. You just occasionally make a snide remark, pinch up your face, or shoot laser beams from your eyes.
What do you stand to lose?
Is there a better way to communicate your displeasure, your disappointment, your frustration? What strategies do you employ when you feel you’re about to lose it? Put your ideas in the comment box below.